Deceptive Discernment

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“Suspicion is not discernment.” – Bill Johnson

“Pastor, I need to talk to you about Jim. He’s new to the church and I need to let you know that I have a ‘red flag’ about him.”

“You do? Why is that?”

“I don’t know, I just have a red flag, you need to be careful.”

“Well, I appreciate your concern, but I’ve known this man for more than 15 years. We’ve walked through a lot of ‘life’ together and he really is a great guy.”

“I understand, but I have a red flag.”

“I understand too…I don’t.”

This is a real conversation I once had with a trusted elder who was genuinely concerned that a new member of our church, and a long-time personal friend of mine, was some sort of wolf in sheep clothing. (Name was changed to protect the innocent.) He was wrong in his discernment. It happens. And the gentleman of concern ended up becoming a friend to this spiritual leader.

There are several lessons to learn from this interaction that are very common in many spirit-filled churches today:

  1. Don’t mistake discernment for suspicion.

A suspicious heart is usually a critical heart. It often looks through the lens of past hurts and usually takes either an overly aggressive stance or a debilitating defensive one. Oft times those in spiritual leadership will mislabel their own paranoia, past hurts or disappointments as “spiritual discernment.”   When not properly handled, this spiritual mislabeling becomes a finger-pointing tool meadiscernment-stuart-milies-fdp-etprnt to isolate and damage others in the Body of Christ. We don’t agree or don’t like someone else’s method or ministry and we “discern” they are a false prophet. Just do a quick Google search of Joel Osteen…you’ll be amazed at how horrible a person he apparently is. (sarcasm intended)

  1. Understand that the different ministry gifts are different for a reason.

 Are you ready for this? The five primary ministry gifts denoted in Ephesians 4 are different. They certainly can work together, but they are very different in their primary motivations.

Pastors are not prophets. Prophets are not pastors. Apostles are not teachers. Evangelists are not pastors. Teachers are not pastors. I did not say that a pastor cannot function prophetically, or that a prophet cannot “do the work of an evangelist.” But understand…these gifts are very different. Pastors (poimen) are shepherds. They are care-givers, lovers of sheep; nurturers and exhorters. Pastors love to lead and feed. Prophets tend to be…well…prophets. At least the real ones do. A sharper word, sometimes of warning of correction. The Old Testament prophets typically had one message: “Repent or die!” My experience is that true prophets tend to be loners, not typically people-oriented. They are message-oriented. Apostles are pioneers, breaking up fallow ground and plowing new fields.

My first youth pastor was a powerful young man of God. When he preached, the anointing was palpable. He was passionate about “going into the highways and byways” and ministering to the most helpless. I loved being around him. But he had little patience for the church. He felt most church people were self-absorbed and not as passionate about reaching the lost as he. He wasn’t necessarily wrong…but he also wasn’t a good pastor. I was cleaning up a lot of messes. I told him one day, “Dude, you are John the Baptist. You’re out in the wilderness crying, “Repent!” wearing funny clothes and eating strange things. We need those prophetic/evangelists in the Body. But we also need the church to take care of those new converts when the come to Christ.

I could go on pointing out the differences. My point is that we need to recognize the differences and appreciate them. Prophets usually make terrible pastors. They can clear out a church quicker than anyone. Apostles are usually so forward-focused that tending existing sheep is very difficult for them.

I remember telling a very prophet-gifted church member: “There is no way I can pastor these people the way you see them.” He chuckled. He understood.

The Father spoke to me one day: “Don’t ever pastor my people paranoid.” I knew exactly what He meant. Never look at new people who walk in the door as potential problems with huge amounts of baggage. Look at their potential and what they are about to become. See the gift inside each of them. Yes, they may be wounded or broken, but Jesus came to heal them. The God who saves and heals them is the same God who deposits precious gifts within each. The very people that others have labeled as “trouble” will become the greatest blessings of your ministry.

Pastors, drop the paranoia. You’ll never get anywhere with it. It will alienate you from some incredible gifts from God. Being a perpetual victim is not an appealing character trait.

However, don’t let the pendulum swing too far the other way and throw the mantle of “pastor” onto everyone who walks in the door. The ability to Google search a Greek word does not constitute a degree in Theology.

Find the balance. Seek the gifts in others. Be life-giving. Watch God do incredible things!

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Making Up Stories

Pastor Marty Freeman

It’s nobody’s fault. It’s how we are made. We make up stories. Everyday we make up stories. Why? Because we are creatures of reason. We can’t help it. Things need to make sense to us. We need to “fill in the gaps” so the picture will look right. We don’t mean to be this way, but all of us make up stories. You do it. I do it. All the time. And it can be very dangerous.
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An older lady caught me in the hallway after church. She was on the verge of tears so I asked her to step into my office. Much to my surprise, she was very upset…with me. Go figure! She recounted an incident four weeks previous where I was heading down the hall at break-neck speed toward the gym and “walked right by her and didn’t even say hello.” My heart sank, because anyone who knows me knows that my favorite thing in the world is to stop and talk to people…especially at church. I apologized and explained that my intent was not to ignore her, but that an usher had rushed into the sanctuary to tell me that my son had fallen in the gym and “there was some blood.” I was focused on getting to my son…so much so, that I never saw this lady in the hallway.

Something amazing happened right before my eyes. This wonderful ladies’ countenance completely changed. As I gave her proper context and perspective to that particular incident, she realized that her “made-up story” in her mind was completely off base. The sad part was that she had held a wound in her heart based on a made-up story in her mind for an entire month. She was actually considering leaving the church, even though I had taken time to greet her and chat several times since this incident.

What happened? She made up a story. She filled in some blanks as to my motivation and actions. She had believed something that simply was not true. Not intentionally…but her assumptions were leading her to a train wreck.

I can recount more than a few such stories where truth is supplanted by the need for us to fill in blanks and draw conclusions. Counseling departments are packed because of this very issue. It’s our nature. We want the picture to make sense. We need the picture to make sense.

Gervase R. Bushe in his book, “Clear Leadership” calls this natural phenomenon “interpersonal mush.” He points out the harsh reality of human nature when he writes, “It is an unfortunate truth that the stories we make up, and the stories that get made up about us, tend to be more unfavorable than the reality. In a vacuum of information, people tend to assume the worse….Interpersonal mush drives out our ability to see the basic humanity in each other – the loving, caring people who are just trying to do their best to do what they feel is rightfully expected of them by others.”

The good news is that Jesus directly addressed this most urgent of interpersonal needs. In Matthew 18:15 Jesus says,  “If your brother or sister[b] sins (against God or against you),[c] go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”

Therein lies the simple answer! Clear communication. It’s vitally important to not allow unanswered questions, unclear perspective or non-communicated context to rob you of your peace and drive a wedge between your relationships. If you care about the relationship, it’s not just Jesus’ suggestion, it is His command that you “go” to your brother to clear the air.

How many friendships and yes, family relationships, have been put on hold for years, even decades? Sisters and brothers finally communicating, clearing up the interpersonal mush finally get relief with comments like, “I didn’t know you felt that way…” and “I didn’t know that part of the story…”

“I didn’t know.” Three words that are relationship assassins.

Why is this so important? Matthew 18 is one of the most ignored directives of Christ in the entire bible. Yet, when we overcome our own fears and misgivings, great healing can be achieved by following His command.

Last fall, a friend who once worked for me contacted me. The lifelong friendship had fallen on hard times due to feelings of betrayal, rejection and made-up stories. His intention was to reconcile. We met. I shared my heart. He shared his. He “owned his stuff” as I already had done years previous. Honestly, it was very difficult and painful to rehash the past. However, the following months after our meeting proved to be like healing oil flowing down Aaron’s beard. (Ps 133:2)

What happened? Proper context. False stories were replaced with truth…raw, honest, brutal truth. Understand this: true friends can handle the brutal truth…they actually crave it. My brother says, “People are smart. They usually sniff out the truth in the end.” Exactly. It’s our deepest human instinct to want to believe the best in somebody else. It’s impossible to “get there” on our own.

How do we keep the enemy from destroying relationships? By not allowing our made-up stories to masquerade as truth.

1. Knowing the truth will set you free.

It’s your own heart that ultimately is at risk. Your heart will grow harder if a made-up story is reigning as truth. You deserve to be at peace in all your relationships. Tell the truth. Ask for the truth.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Prov 4:23) Jesus promised in John 8:32, “Then you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” Place that promise in the context of friendships gone bad, relationships lost. When you’re brave enough to ask the right questions, seek the proper perspective, putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, truth will flood in like a mighty river, cleansing you of hurt feelings and recovering your broken soul for a greater Kingdom purpose.

2. Knowing the truth will set others free.

When you open the doors to the prison of “made-up stories,” the liberty obtained in your own heart is only surpassed by the power of freedom you offer to the other party. They deserve peace as much as you do. If you have received grace and forgiveness from your own Heavenly Father, how much more should we offer it to others? However, such grace is difficult to come by if you’re living with made-up stories.

3. Knowing the truth will save your relationships.

You deserve to know the truth…or to share the truth…because you deserve your friends back. You need them in your life. They are part of who you are. You need your sister back, your brother back, your mom or dad with whom you haven’t spoken in years. You are important to them. They are important to you. Be reconciled!

4. Clear communication will become a lifestyle.

As Bushe stated, we tend to make up more negative stories than positive. However, when you become a mature follower of Christ, who seeks the truth in your relationships, this lifestyle will become habit-forming. Why? Your basic belief in the goodness of God’s kids will become predominant in your thinking. You won’t so quickly assume the worst when you hear the rumor. You will understand that there is ALWAYS a back-story that will offer more clarity and context. You will seek that truth rather than settle for the one-sided perspective you first received. You will start to transform your mind (Romans 12:2) to that of Christ’s…seeing the best in people, desiring to be a true peacemaker and vessel of healing.

If you’re disappointed with someone…ask yourself this question: Do I know the whole story? If not, then go get it…from the “horse’s mouth” not the rumor-monger next door.

If you remember that someone is disappointed with you: don’t ponder the question much longer.

Jesus urgently stated in Matthew 5:23, “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”

AskMeAnother_logoDo not delay. Clear the air. Seek the truth. Make every effort to live in peace with all men (and women).

If you have questions for me…ASK ME. (I’m such an open book it will blow your mind!) If you have questions for a former friend, disappointed co-worker, disgruntled spouse…ASK THEM. Stop living a life of “made-up” stories when the truth is so much more liberating.

Do it quickly. Your worship depends on it. Your heart depends on it.

 

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Embracing Change

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2016 has been, and will continue to be, a year of shifting, transition and change. Change is never easy. Transitions can wobble the knees. But I cannot recount one great promotion or advancement the Lord has provided for me or my family without first experiencing the pain of change.

ChangePixIn August 2001, my wife and I sat in front of the pulpit committee of Hillside Assembly of God. I remember looking at the pages of meticulously handwritten financials (thanks Dewey Smith, draftsman extraordinaire) and commenting, “You guys know you’re bankrupt, right?” One member replied quickly, “Yes sir, and the question is, do we stay here, ‘lest we die?’” I then urgently told them, “Please do not submit me for consideration as your next pastor without understanding the ‘pain of change.’ Please understand, I’m not going to change one thing…everything will have to change…and it will all change very quickly.” Not one of the members of that pulpit committee even blinked. They smiled and said, “That’s what we need…let’s get to it!”

Not every transition can happen that smoothly and with that much favor, but the necessity of change is at the very core of growth. Embracing transition is also a powerful expression of trust. Do you trust the new leader, the new employer, the new set of circumstances? The question really boils down to, “Do you trust God?”

Abraham had to trust God’s instructions to leave the land of his childhood and go into a new land. Moses trusted God’s command to lead His people out of bondage. The children of Israel did not trust God and an entire generation missed out on seeing the Promised Land. If you don’t embrace the shift, then you’ll be relegated to sitting on the wrong side of the Jordan watching others enter the land without you.

Some transitions are welcomed: A new baby, an exciting promotion at work, a new relationship. Other shifts are less desirable: the loss of a loved one, a lay-off from your job, a friendship betrayed. But never forget God’s promise: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.” (Rom. 8:28)

It’s a matter of trust. What new ministry opportunity is God willing to open up for you if you are willing to let go of the old apprenticeship? What business opportunity is waiting for you if you’re willing to follow God away from the security of your current position? What new friendship awaits if you’ll just let go of the toxic influences of the past?

Big decisions. Don’t underestimate how much faith you will need to navigate such change. Doubts will rise. Winds will blow. But what awaits on the other side? Maybe it’s your healing. Maybe it’s your deliverance. Maybe it’s a crazy person who will be set free and lead an entire region to Christ (Mark 5:1-20).

On another note. Don’t wait too long to decided to embrace the change. God will move on to offer the opportunity to someone else if you delay. Rivers won’t be crossed quite yet. Someone else may get the promotion. It’s okay, your day will come…but what if it’s today? What if it’s now? Embrace the shift! God’s got you.

 

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Unoffendableness

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Unoffendableness

I didn’t make up the word “unoffendableness.” I first read the word in a staff meeting at Bethel Life Center many years ago. Our youth pastor asked if he could lead a team-building exercise. Each one of us were handed a 3×5 notecard and were asked to write our name on the top. Then, we passed the cards to the person on our left. With each card, we were to write a positive word, statement or phrase that, in your opinion, best described that person. When the circle was complete, each received their card back with a list of people’s best thoughts about you. It really was a great exercise. I still have that card.

My friend Mark (the youth pastor) wrote on my card. “I appreciate your ‘unoffendableness.’” He chuckled as I slowly tried to pronounce the syllables out loud.

I asked him why he thought that I was unoffendable? He went on to explain that as a music minister, he had watched me deal with cranky musicians, difficult sound guys, take open criticism for song choices (even having received a few racial slurs about some of my choices), staged large Easter and Christmas productions, worked long hours…and nothing seemed to phase me. He stated, “You get along with everybody and you never get rattled.”

I don’t relay this encounter to toot my own horn or for any reason except to say, Mark was right. I cannot remember the last time I was offended. I attribute some of that to my dad’s influence. You could spit in my dad’s face and he’d take you for coffee to talk about it 5 minutes later. Maybe some of it came from childhood pastor, J.P. McCamey. Talk about a man smooth under pressure. He is always smiling, alw11i-forgive-you-imageays believing the best in everybody, no matter what they’ve done or where they’ve been. I’m also quite sure I learned much under Ken Woods. If he was every upset or irritated about something, you could never tell. Again, smooth leadership, even when it was tough.

I honestly cannot think of one person on this planet that I would not go up to and hug and wish them God’s best if I saw them on the street today, regardless of what our past may look like. Why? I’m not offended. I’m not ashamed. I’m free.

I’ve always been the type of person that would rather apologize to save the relationship, even if I had nothing to apologize for. (And I’ve had plenty of missteps for which I needed to apologize…and have done so.) I’ve stood in the pulpit on many occasions teaching on forgiveness and proclaimed, “I cannot be offended.” That statement always brings a chuckle from the crowd…and some have taken that statement as a personal challenge to prove me wrong. They lost every time.

Here’s why. The Apostle Paul wrote in Hebrews 12:15, See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”

We fall short of the grace of God in our own lives when we refuse to offer the same grace to others. But the second part of this verse is the most disturbing to me: “…no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.”

 Who are the “many” who would be defiled?

  1. You. If we choose not to participate in the grace of God toward others, then we undermine the grace of God in our own lives. We cannot fully understand what an incredible gift His grace is until we actually pass that gift on to others in need of it.
  1. The one trying to offend you. Wounded people…wound people. Yes, offense is always available, but remember, you may be the one true representation of Christ this wounded person may see. Would Jesus react with anger, bitterness or offense? No. Then why should you? He may be setting you up to be the healing agent in their lives. It doesn’t get any better than that!
  1. Your family. Please never forget that your family is watching. Your spouse will thrive and stay well-guarded if you maintain your innocence. If you choose the path of offense, a root of bitterness will eventually creep into the ones you love the most. Be very careful of “borrowed offenses.”

Rick Renner posted this morning: “You can’t be offended without your own consent.” Remember, offense is your choice. Every offense that you hold onto from the past is like a weight. With each new offense, more weight is added until it becomes very difficult for you to move forward with joy in any area of life. The cycle has to stop and with God’s help, you’re the only one who can decide you’ve had enough. Offense is a prison sentence. Offense produces a sick heart and leads to poor physical health. Heed Jesus’ warnings to forgive so that you can be forgiven.

Allow me to clarify one thing. I have never said that I haven’t been disappointed or let down by others from time to time. That’s part of life. However, each of us own the choice to hold on to those disappointments until they fester into a cancer on the soul.

Not long ago I was pointing out a very “disappointing” comment made to me in a meeting. One defender of the comment said, “Well, you obviously took offense to that.” I stopped him quickly and said, “No, I wasn’t offended and I’m still not. However, the statement was wrong, ill-advised and I want you to know that I won’t stand for it.”

Was I offended? Absolutely not. Did I forgive that person, even though an apology was never offered? Absolutely, almost immediately. Was I providing a necessary boundary around someone else’s choices so they clearly knew where I stood? Yes…and that’s a very healthy, empowering thing to do.

Wounded people tend to rehearse the offenses of the past and live only to survive. Thriving has almost become impossible because all they see is how they’ve been hurt in the past. We should empathize and pray for them, but never dwell there with them, borrowing their offenses and making them our own.

You’re not called to be a doormat…you’re called to overcome. Overcome the enemy by never allowing offense to produce a bitter root that will choke out God’s peace and separate you from others. (It’s also very fun to win with people, even if they don’t want to be won.)

Thanks for that card, Mark. It was a game-changer.

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Be Strong in the Lord Pt. 1

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Me and King David

I am a student of King David. Of course, I am a student of God’s, but King David seemed to have had God’s heart, so emulating the relationship David had with the Father has always been a desire of mine.

Some of the similarities are obvious. David was red-headed, energetic and likable. David was a musician, the “Sweet Psalmist of Israel.” His songs are brutally honest, filled with life’s best treasures while wrought with such aching pain. We continue to put our own melodies to his poetic lyric. I, too, am a musician, a psalmist. It is my primary gift and my deepest desire: to passionately pursue the presence of God and to help as many people as possible get there too. It is my greatest joy and my highest call.DavidPic

David was a shepherd boy. However, one must admit, being a songwriter/worshiper is not the same as being a king. Being a worship leader is the not the same as being a pastor either. David is probably the most recognizable “shepherd” in all of scripture. He was born into the role. He was good at it. He was faithful to his earthly father’s flock and would grow into the role of a faithful shepherd over His Heavenly Father’s flock. He would break the mold and all others who followed would be compared to him.

Nearly 20 years ago a colleague dropped a book on my desk entitled, “A Tale of Three Kings” by Gene Edwards. It’s not a long read, but it has proven to be possibly the most valuable of my life and ministry, other than scripture. I have recommended it to many, especially those in leadership. I have revisited it many times. Three years ago, facing one of the darkest times of my life, Edward’s text once again proved to be an anchor of stability and a guidepost on how to proceed through great difficulty.

“A Tale of Three Kings” is an allegorical rendering of the story of King David’s relationships with two other kings: King Saul in his early life, and his own son, Absalom toward the end of his life. Before you get excited and rush out to purchase the book, allow me to warn you…the subtitle of the books reads: “A study in brokenness.” Please proceed with caution.

The prologue is a brief conversation between God and the archangel Gabriel. God instructs Gabriel to distribute two portions of Himself, two destinies awaiting. One portion is outer power, which will eventually reveal true character. The second is described as an “inheritance.” The angel says, “A gift is worn on the outer person; an inheritance is planted deep inside—like a seed.” He goes on to explain, “It must be mixed, lavishly with pain, sorrow, and crushing.”

Sorry…I warned you. If you’re going to take this journey with me, you must be willing to receive the gift along with the crushing. No fun…but necessary.

You see, I wasn’t fully aware of what that meant until a few years ago. Sure, I had been through seasons of trial and testing, but God had always miraculously brought me through. He was an escape, a true Deliverer who had proven Himself over and over strong for every task. He still is…but this time it would be much different, much deeper. This time, the darkness, the fear, the rejection and the hopelessness would be almost more than I could handle. Several themes ran through my psyche: Give up. I quit. Fight back. Defend yourself. Give up…(yes, this one was a biggie!). Slap somebody. Slap yourself. Give up…(there it is again.) Does anyone recognize any of these?

The Lord has released me to start writing about my journey. It’s a story of recovery. It’s a story of healing (still in process). It’s a story of frustration and desperation and heavy-duty wrestling with God. It’s a story of comebacks…a story of hope and gratitude. Most of all…it’s my story…and it’s HIS story. On this side of the valley, I can admit that I’m privileged He allowed me to be part of it. As Garth Brooks sings, “I could have missed the pain, but I’d a had to miss the dance.”

Oh yea…it’s “a study in brokenness.” Yippee!

Stay tuned…more to come…much more…I hope it helps many.

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Don’t Push Send

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“Too much talk leads to sin.

Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Proverbs 10:19 (NLT)

The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace.”

Exodus 14:14 (NKJV)

 

I watched with great humor as Coach Herm Edwards was offering advice to a group of rookies coming into training camp with the Kansas City Chiefs. He warned them that in the age of social media, it is incredibly tempting to post things on social media or by text or email that may seem right in the moment, but later will prove difficult to defend.

Let’s be honest. This is true for everyone. Social media is riddled with people working out their personal issues in a public forum, attempting to garner sympathy, right an injustice or simply tear someone else apart. We watch as people make bold statements in the heat of an emotional political season. We witness embarrassing barrages of anger and rage from a jilted ex-husband toward his ex-wife. We attempt to decipher coded verbiage of a wounded spirit trying to accuse someone else without actually coming right out and saying what they really want to say.

Social media, text messaging, email all offer cover from direct confrontation. Suddenly, the meek become bold, the bold become bolder and the angry go over the top. Words are often communicated that most would never have the guts enough to say directly to the recipient’s face.  Too often, thoughts are communicated that the sender regrets later.Pushing Send

Admit it. Haven’t you pushed “send” and wished you could retrieve the message the second it left your finger? In the immortal words of Rush Limbaugh: “Words mean things.” In the incorruptible words of holy scripture, words can build up and words can tear down. Proverbs 18:21 says, Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” (Msg)  

Today’s exhortation is simply, “Don’t push send!” If you must write the long, rambling email in response to an insult, then write it. You might feel better. It is wonderful therapy. But don’t push send. The proverbial “grapevine” has delivered to you a hurtful accusation based in half-truths and innuendo. Don’t respond even when every fiber of your flesh is crying out to cut loose. Remember, when you step into the flesh, you leave the realm of grace.

I’m a pastor. Early in my ministry as a worship pastor, I was given the gift of being able to “not respond.” I’m not sure why…but I’ve always been able to hold my tongue, listen intently, then…let it go. (One MUST learn this skill to deal with musicians.) Much of the time I did not respond to an accusation because I knew it would harm someone else and could harm the church.

You see…Silence is powerful. Silence doesn’t tell stories. Silence doesn’t spread gossip. Silence doesn’t speak ill-will. Silence protects. Silence conceals. Silence covers “backsides.” The ability for a pastor to hold such confidence is absolutely vital to his or her success. The ability for any follower of Christ to do so reaps untold rewards. (And…if the truth be made known…it really bothers the accuser when they don’t get a response. So…that’s a bonus!)

However,  I believe there is more to it. I believe it’s what God wants from us. Certainly there are proper moments to confront, to clarify and to “speak the truth in love.” But I have learned that silence goes a long way to victory and is often times the only path to personal peace in Christ.

Concerning those who have been falsely accused, lied about or diminished, I recently read: “Let your character speak! The fruit of your life will always outlive a lie. Godly character is the greatest defense.” I don’t suggest that you bottle it up and not “vent” when you need to. But be sure it’s with your spouse, a trusted friend or a pastor who can understand that they are simply helping you process the frustration and pain. But please…please…don’t retaliate. Don’t say something you will regret. Don’t carry someone else’s ignorance to others and allow it to place you in the unenviable position of becoming a gossip or talebearer.

Trust God…let it go. And whatever you do… DON’T PUSH SEND!

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NO FEAR Pt. 1

Jan 3, 2016

 

 

Weekly message from Pastor Marty Freeman

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True Christmas Pt. 3

The Word became flesh

Dec 20,2015

 

 

Weekly message from Pastor Marty Freeman

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True Christmas Pt. 2

Constellations

 

Dec 13,2015

 

 

 

Weekly message from Pastor Marty Freeman

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